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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:    Stay with us and keep calm.The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.
Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.
Move us to a quiet place.We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.
Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.
Speak to us in short, simple sentences.
Be predictable. Avoid surprises.
Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.As odd as it sounds, it works.


                                                                                                                 


WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”2. Say, “Calm down.”This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.”Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.



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perspicious:

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
    
  1. Stay with us and keep calm.
    The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

  2. Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
    You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

  3. Move us to a quiet place.
    We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

  4. Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
    We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

  5. Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

  6. Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

  7. Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
    As odd as it sounds, it works.
                                                                                                                 
WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:

1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.

Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.

Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”


2. Say, “Calm down.”
This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.

Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.

Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.


3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.

Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.


4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.

The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.

Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.


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(So I completely adore you and your blog) I was wondering what's the badge shot? And why use it special? You light up my life by the way
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bisexualdeanwinchester:

if you’re referring to “THAT SHIT WITH THE BADGE” mentioned in this post then buckle up friend because the only thing i love more than the badge shot is talking about the badge shot 

the badge shot happens around half way through the dean/aaron pub scene (in 8.13 “everybody hates hitler” just in case you’re not completely obsessed with this scene like i am) and it looks like this: 

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that’s the entirety of the badge shot. the whole thing. but this scene is unbelievable and this shot is the crowning fucking glory. how many times do you think dean winchester has flashed an fbi badge??? hundreds?? THOUSANDS??? and it’s never a thing. sometimes we see it close up when he shoves it all up in someone’s face, but usually it’s just bish bash bosh badge, put it away, move on. but then there’s THIS, a shot which turns up in the middle of a scene in which dean is hit on by a dude and DOES NOT SHOOT HIM DOWN

so aaron is being cute as shit and telling dean he thought they had a little eye magic, shared a moment, and dean realises what’s happening, sloooowly reaches out, pulls the badge towards himself, and closes it. and this stuck out to me from the minute i saw this episode, at arse o’clock in the morning on a shitty jumpy livestream. i was WAITING for a gif of him closing his badge to show up. because it’s not just dean closing a fake fbi badge. that fake fbi badge is dean’s hunting persona. that fake fbi badge is hunting, full stop. it’s monsters and death and fucking nazi necromancers but, most importantly, it’s LYING. it’s symbolic of dean lying, putting on a front, being someone he’s not

dean closing that badge in the slowest, most deliberate way anyone has ever closed a badge is dean consciously choosing to approach this as dean, not agent bolan (and don’t even get me started on that name choice). this is dean realising he’s being hit on by a guy and choosing to be HONEST, and not put on the hypermasculine alpha male hunter front that he usually falls back on 

if he’d just put the badge away — no muss, no fuss, no drawing attention to it — then it wouldn’t mean anything. without this shot, fbi dean could have said “yeah okay, but no, no moment, this is a federal investigation”, shot aaron down, left the pub and it would have been 100% believable. but we got this shot. we got dean winchester stuttering and blushing and fidgeting with his badge all the way through ”yeah okay, but no, no moment, this is a federal investigation” and the subsequent flirting, fluster, minor panicking, “oh my god what am i doing???”, foot-in-mouthing and bumping into tables is ALL DEAN

and there’s nothing special about dean being himself (he’s himself 90% of the time) except for the fact he could have been done with this conversation in 1/3 of the time if he’d just stuck to the script, but he CHOOSES NOT TO. it’s ALL ABOUT THE CHOOSING. it’s about dean DECIDING TO STICK AROUND AND LET A DUDE FLIRT WITH HIM JUST TO SEE WHERE IT GOES. and, arguably, if closing the badge so deliberately symbolises dean being honest, but he keeps up the fbi cover then… i wonder… what he could be being honest about…… 

if aaron hadn’t back-pedalled after dean’s reaction to “is that supposed to make you less interesting” then you can fucking BET they would have ended up getting cute awkward drinks later and probably having a cute awkward makeout sesh in the car. i mean, if aaron wasn’t actually tailing dean and didn’t have a huge golem, but whatever

(HONESTLY THOUGH dean’s reaction to “is that supposed to make you less interesting” is surprise and poorly concealed interest so of course aaron is thinking “oh shit this wasn’t supposed to WORK” and aborts mission pronto and, seriously, dean’s facial expressions are INCREDIBLE. you can literally SEE him thinking “oh god, what am i DOING, i actually almost WENT FOR THAT, get outta here winchester” and it’s superb. he even does one of those calming hand movement things. i can’t believe this scene is real) 

and i mean everything is open to interpretation but how you can read this as anything other than “dean gets hit on by a cute guy and is really flattered and flustered and into it and decides to test the water re: burgeoning sexuality in a safe controlled environment and then gets cold feet” and still have it make sense is beyond me 



dapperfucker:

best of “she wears short skirts”

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phantomrose96:

This scene just became 400 times funnier to me because I rewatched Mystery Spot and realized that Sam busted him on a continuity error the first time.
Gabe got through 100 Tuesdays keeping everything the same, until he accidentally used strawberry syrup instead of maple and Sam caught it and outted him.
Gabriel is just really bad at continuity and Metatron knows it.

phantomrose96:

This scene just became 400 times funnier to me because I rewatched Mystery Spot and realized that Sam busted him on a continuity error the first time.

Gabe got through 100 Tuesdays keeping everything the same, until he accidentally used strawberry syrup instead of maple and Sam caught it and outted him.

Gabriel is just really bad at continuity and Metatron knows it.

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Michaela DePrince 

 THIS IS SO FUCKING IMPORTANT!

black ballerina excellence

So gorgeous and elegant

Why is this important? i see a girl doing ballet, stop outlining difference, its important we just admire the skills, and afore mentioned ellegance

First of all shut the fuck up and have several seats 

and heres why in Michaela’s own words what she had to go through beig BLACK and still goes through

When she was around 8 and rehearsing for The Nutcracker, just a few days before the performance she was told, “I’m sorry, you can’t do it. America’s not ready for a black girl ballerina.”

For Michaela, “to say this to an 8-year-old is just devastating. It was terrible.”

When she was 9, a teacher told her mother: “I don’t like to put money into black dancers because they grow up and end up having big boobs and big hips.”

The dancer looked down at her petite figure and protested, “I don’t have boobs. I don’t get it.”

Instead of getting her down, “It makes me more determined,” she said. “Because I’ve been through so much, I know now that I can make it and I can help other kids who have been in really bad situations realize that they can make it too.”

This is why it is important, for little Black girls to see a black ballerina made it despite being discriminated against because of her skin color!!! 

Hers was definitely the most absorbing story in the documentary First Position, her early years in Sierra Leone, the shit she put up with from dance instructors, the shit she put up with from the parents of other girls she was dancing with growing up who would just say things like “Oh black girls can’t be ballerinas” to her mother as though it was a casual fact and not a horrifically racist and demotivational claim to make. What she’s gone through as a person with vitilago, both as a dancer and as a child in the orphanage where they said her pigmentation made her a “devil child”. And just how hard she works ON TOP of the energy she has to spend dealing with people who try to tear her down. In the documentary she trains so hard for the youth Grand Prix that she injures herself in such a way that dancing more before recuperating could potentially cause her permanent career-ending injury, but she does it anyway because she knows how important the scholarships offered to competitors are and wins one.

She’s a super amazing person, I’m so happy every time I hear other people bring her up.

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She’s stunning!

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HALF CINEMA CHEERED AND THE OTHER HALF WERE REALLY CONFUSED WHY WE WERE CHEERING

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